| What can I do when my child is being bullied? |
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 If you suspect that your child is being bullied at school, then you need to trust your instincts. Schools are a great place for bullies to build their reputation of power and control. First, let your child know that you believe that something is wrong. Don't try to "bully" the information out of your child. Be patient. Promise that you will not make the situation worse. Do not promise to keep it a secret, or that you will not report the problem. Do promise that you will not do anything without your child knowing what you are going to do. Be sure that your child knows that this situation will not get better on it's own, and that appropriate adult intervention is needed. Second, contact the school, once you know what the issue is. Before identifying yourself, ask what the school's policy is on keeping kids safe once they have reported a bullying incident. Do not give out any information until you have a satisfactory answer to that question. If the school does not have an answer for you, ask when you can call get to get an answer. Do not go charging into the school demanding justice. This will only make the situation worse for your child, and will likely embarrass him or her. Third, set up a meeting to problem solve your way through this situation with your child and members of the school faculty, including the teacher and the counselor. Your goal must be getting this situation solved, rather than seeking revenge. This is a highly emotional time for parents, and there is NOTHING tougher than seeing your child hurting because of another's actions. Your child deserves to feel safe and welcome at school. Be sure to keep that the focus in the meeting. Finally, once a plan has been set, check in with your child regularly, and the school periodically. Keep in touch with all of the support people. Trust your instincts with your child, and let the school know if the plan is not working,
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kttttttttttt
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i hate him this boy who is my freind bullyed me and made my sister cry he threw a crockroach that me and my sister dont like and he did really horrible things to me and my sister we think he is a great big bully i hate him so much i just wish he could never of been my friend.  |
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nena
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to all those pepole out there who are being bullied i have a little boost for ya hello i think kids who are being bullied should tell an adult. because they should gain confidant's in themselves and tell an adult because if you keep letting the bully, bully you then who will know whats going on in your own personal lives. you need help so stop letting the bully bully you like gin come self courage don't be afraid there wimps to they shouldn't pick on someone who can't defend themselves and there stupid losers for doing that peace |
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crystal
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... hey to those people who are being bullied stand up for your selves and don't take crap from those who are bulling you be strong and keep your head up highlove ya and god is with you peace |
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Ashly`
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To whom this may Concern Listen Bullies are just big jerks that think thier bad.. just remember they only pick on you cause you have more than they will ever have. But don't let anyone get in your face and mouth you let them know real quick you ain"t scared hit that kid! |
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Eunice
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to all those pepole out there who are being bullied i have a little boost for ya i am sorry they bully you and they bully me to because i am a nerd |
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Eunice
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To whom this may Concern ya i agree with that You should not get bullied and to kick that kids butt |
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mark
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we got to stop bully let make a team my name is mark anderson in my school a long time ago i got bulley i try hard to stop but it cap going 10 days later it stop now i can going on with my live i live in split lake bye now see you |
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Kimberly
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Ms. For all of the children who are being bullied, it is not your fault and you should not look down on yourselves but just know that that your parents and teachers don't want you to have to go to school scared to its ok to tell but when you tell make sure that the bully is close by and tell the teacher or principal. "He keeps picking on me" |
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tinki
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tinki oaaaaaaaap!, well me too, are being bully... but i just believe that one day this.. is over |
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stephanie
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... hello pplz me n my friend hate bullies they r mean n they dont have a life they bullie people because they feel bad about to themselves.. they want other people to feel bad to !!! well just tell on them n if they call u names ignore it!!  |
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Amanda
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Anti Bullying Hey, Bullying is not right, it goes against the Canadian Charter of Right and Freedoms so please report bullying to administration (someone who works at the school). Record all facts and details of each incident including the date and send a copy to someone in a position to help. A charity in Toronto is taking on the Anti Bullying Cause through a huge initiative to raise awareness and give people strategies to stop it. |
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Nameless
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Bullying I am 15 and I always get bullied by a malay gangster, his 4 non-gangster friends and a indian guy. I hate them so much and now I am always alone. |
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justice
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don't be silent Don't be silent about bullying. It may take alot of strength to face your fear...but thats how a bully rules...Fear. You won't be alone if you talk to your friends or a trusted adult. You can email teachers/counselors from home. It is not weakness to tell another person you need help. Bullying is a sign of weakness. No matter what happens you will feel better for standing up for yourself, for being the mature one. |
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Jen
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Being Bullied Hay I understand what some of you are going through, I myself have a nine year old that is being bullied, what do you say to them to keep them going and keep them wanting to stay at school? I always tell my son to stay away from them and don't associate with any one who does not want to be your friend, he says he plays alot at recess by himself and sometimes he plays with some of the boys. I tell him well you know you can't get in trouble being by yourself, I try to encourage him in everything, so I want to encourage you TELL, TELL, TELL yes you may feel we as parents don't understand and can't help but we can and we want to. hang in there okay to all of my new found friends. |
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Saundra Williams
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concerned parent Hi i also have a nine year old daughter who is been bullied since 1st grade. the school is not helping a lots. they only say that they will get to the bottum of it. my daughter one day walked home when she was still a small child. I tell her everyday to keep her head up. I feel as if their bullying is effecting her school performance and i was going to take her to a different school but, the school talked me out of it, but i think i should of switched schools maybe. to everychild out there please tell your parents about being bullied. |
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MOM#12354245
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4yr old bullied by neice My son has been bullied by my neice for a little while now. I thought that she would be discliplined out of it by now, but she is not. I've tried to tell her whats right and wrong, but she does things just because she can and will do what I told her not to-because she gets away with it. I told her many times, not to draw or color on my sons face- and she did it in front of her mother. Her mother did not say anything to her, and many times has not. However, I yelled my neice and told her to wash it off of him. Her mother was startled and took her daughter and left. Now, she is telling me that I degraded her daughter that day. I don't agree, and are hoenstly fed up with her and her daughters behaviors. Anyone have any suggestions for me? |
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Good DAD
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... find out what the bullies are saying to your kid and show your kids how to confront the bullies in strong way (yes if they have to hit them let them do it and have their back if they get a warning)trust me they will not mess with your kid again. ireally mean this the problem will not be fixed on it's own period. |
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